Monday, October 30, 2006

On Continuing the Family Name

I am the last male Braids that could carry the family name on, but, alas, I have no boys. After our second was born my aunts cornered me at a family function and began interrogating me about having another. When I said Theo and I did not believe we would have any more children they voiced the fact that I was the last able male to carry on the family name and that it would be a shame if the Braids name were to come to an end. I remember my response very well as we stood holding our styrofoam cups of coffee in the hall at Westminster Presbyterian Church where my uncles are Deacons. "The odds are that one of my two girls will be a lesbian and being that they are both strong-willed I would bet my life that either one would be the dominate female in the relationship guaranteeing any child they might have would wind up with my last name". It is a beautiful thing to watch grown women turn many different shades of red and fumble for words.

4 comments:

Krista said...

SNAP! Good one buddy...
I've had to do a little explaining myself in light of the choice not to give our child a middle name (which in our family has usually been biblical or family name) or hyphenate the last name either.
Familial pressure and assumption run rampant about our motivations and choices.
I hope I can come up with a zinger like you did when pushed against the wall.
Besides, I should have an option besides just punching people in the face :-)

Ms. Wilderness said...

HAAAAAAA.

I suggested that we give the girls my last name and the boys his. Then, in highschool, it'll be even easier for them to deny relation. Then *someones* mother (you know it wasn't mine) got all exasperated and worried about it. HA, I say.

We though we may give a boy my last name as a first name. You know Braids Mysterio Cap sounds really nice. Mom loves it.

Krista said...

Haha,
by coincidence - had our baby been male, it would have gotten my last name. Hmmm, amazing what a shit storm all of this stuff can cause huh?
Braids Mysterio Cap sounds like the child would definitely have some very amazing special powers.

Troubles Braids said...

People like rituals. They find comfort in them. The only reason my girls have my last name is because society is geared that way and it's easier than bucking the system. What I do like about sharing my name with my girls is when their names are called for something special I can yell out "That's my girl doing the Braids proud".